What's in a line?

A line is something you tell another person to get what you want from them. There may be some truth in it but the main purpose behind the line is to acquire the desired result. Not all lines are out and out lies but the issue is not the truth behind the line but the sincerity with which it is given.

Why do men give women lines?

Men have many reasons why they feed women lines. Some may do it just to feed their own egos. Being able to tell a woman something, even if it is a lie, and get a reaction from them can be gratifying in itself. The desired result may be to gain attention or affection from the woman. Some lines may be relatively harmless, just a casual comment made to flatter a woman. Some may be more sinister in nature, made to try to woo a woman into bed. Also, don't think that it is only the jerks that are feeding women the lines. Nice guys will use them too. Women use lines also but I think it's more rare because in truth it is easier for women to get attention, affection and other things from men without resorting to lines.

How to spot a line

Impudent lass that I am, when I'm given a line I'll often chuckle and respond "Hey, that's a good one. Does it usually work for you?" Said with a sly grin and a teasing tone this usually goes over well. They'll respect me for 1) being able to spot the line and 2) having the guts to call them on it. Now spotting a line can be difficult. The real pros have been training for years and have perfected line-giving to an art (that's line-giving not line-dancing). Knowing not only what to say but when to say it and whom it will work on is the true challenge. If a guys tells you something and it sounds like it's been rehearsed, chances are, it's a line. If it's something that is overly flattering and you think he's exaggerating, chances are, it's a line. If he doesn't know you very well but makes grand statements about how truly wonderful you are, chances are, it's a line. I could go on and on (and I usually do) but you get the idea. Most of the time, you can trust your instincts on this one. But as I said, the truly great ones have mastered the technique. The one good thing about these Masters is that if you can see them for what they are, you can actually learn a great deal from them about men and the guiles they use on women. If you think a guy is giving you a line, take a step back and proceed with caution. Take everything he says with a grain of salt. Better to be safe than sorry. I've run out of cliches so 'nuf said.

Lines my men have told me...

Here are some of my favorites. If you recognize them, maybe you fed them to me! Congrats, you made the list!

1) I really like being with you. Or... I really like spending time with you.

2) I feel closer to you. Or... I feel like I know you so much better.

3) You're different from other women. Or... I don't know what it is about you...

4) I really respect you. Or... I really think highly of you.

5) I thought about you when I
  a) heard a romantic song on the radio
  b) read a touching poem the other day
  c) saw a beautiful sunset
  d) woke up feeling horny

6) I don't know what I want right now
    Translated: I know what I want and it's not you, but do you want to fool around?

7) You're so complicated. Or... You're so mysterious

8) I'm really picky. (Implying that they're picky and you're lucky they're even giving you the time of day, you're special)

9) I don't want to hurt you and I don't want to get hurt either. (Implying he's sensitive to your feelings and vulnerable himself as well. Be still my heart.)

10) I don't understand women (Implying that he really wants to understand them and that he is oh so sensitive)

Of course all of the above statements can be said with honesty and therefore would not be lines at all. However, my point is again, the intent and sincerity behind the statement that determines whether it is a line or not. Lines are not necessarily a bad thing. I've used them myself without malice. Just a friendly remark made to flatter the other person. I just think people need to be aware that people feed each other lines and knowing when to spot them and when to call them can be helpful when dealing with another person in friendship, a relationship or even business.

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