The Journal - March 21 - March 28, 1999

 

3-26-99 Friday

My friend Yonson Serrano sent me this picture today. I thought it was pretty hilarious.   Do you think this would increase job performance?  

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The new issue of Rolling Stone Magazine has hit the newsstands.  I went by Borders bookstore today and picked up a copy.   This issue has Britney Spears on the cover. The article about me and my webcam is on page 116. Just a short blurb.   I'll scan it and post it this weekend.

On another media blitz note, I spoke to a reporter from the San Francisco Examiner yesterday.   She is also doing a story on webcams so we had a phone interview.   I suspect she will just have a short blurb about me and my URL, no pictures.  She said the article would be in this Sunday's newspaper.

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I FINALLY saw the ZDTV segment!   Wow, they did a really good job.   I wish they had wider syndication.    As far as I know, only people with Digital Cable saw the broadcast.   I just have my lowly, generic cable hook up.   Thank goodness Mare was nice enough to tape it for me.  

Speaking of Mare, she introduced me to this very cool Asian site.   

Celebrasian

 

They have some really cool t-shirts, books and other Asian related stuff. BaddGrrl says, CHECK IT OUT!

 

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My twinnie, Fredlet sent me this joke today:

Q: Why did the Clintons name their dog Buddy?

A: Because you can't yell "Come, Spot." in the White House anymore.

 

Bahahahaha!  Thanks Twinnie!

 

3-25-99 Thursday Afternoon

Here's the picture of me in the Rolling Stone article!   Thanks to Sam Gerace for sending me a the pic and giving me the scoop on the article.   

Yes there is a pic of you in the Rolling Stone article. I've attached a copy of it. The article is on page 116. Not a lot about you but does mention "A friend of mine met a guy in LA who said he has lunch with me ever day."

Also mentions your complete name and web site. That you broadcast from work and your bedroom but any request to show anything usually is met with your phrase about the finger! LOL That you've been broadcasting about a year, blah blah blah! :)

 

Thanks Sam!

 

For a larger image of the picture, click here.

3-25-99 Thursday

Hey look! Over 3,000 people have signed my Guestbook! Woohoo!  Actually there are a lot more but my old Guestbook got deleted by the lame-ass company that was hosting it.  Have you signed my Guestbook?!  Please stop by and sign in.  Thanks!

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3-24-99 Wednesday

I received this e-mail from a friend, Fred Esteves and I wanted to share it with everyone.  I know it's long but I think it's worth reading.  And sharing.   

 


Fifteen Factors for a Fulfilling Relationship
by Neil Clark Warren,Ph.D.

Since the 1970s, people have been holding onto their single status an
average of five years longer. Today, according to the National
Center for Health Statistics, the average age for women to marry is 28,
and for men 29. Their desire to wait is frequently based on the need
"to be sure" about their choice of a mate. And waiting until you are
sure is a good policy for such a monumental decision.

As a psychologist who works with hundreds of singles and married
couples, I am constantly amazed at how many people stumble their
way into marriage and then wonder why their relationship grows
miserably stagnant or chronically contentious. The idea of approaching the
decision of matrimony objectively and proactively (before the ceremony)
simply never occurred to them.

Most of the failed marriages I have encountered were in trouble
the day they began. Why? Quite simply, the two people involved chose
the wrong person. Your choice of marital partner is more crucial
than anything else you will ever do to make your marriage succeed.
That may sound like a no-brainer, but you would be surprised at the
large percentage of people who are so intent on getting to "I do" that
they don't invest the necessary time and effort to make a good
decision.

If you want to give yourself the best chance for a fulfilling
and lasting marriage, consider the following factors for making that
mate choice:


1. Couples who date for two years or more have a significantly
better chance of building a happy, lasting marriage. When a couple is
ready to decide on something as all-encompassing as marriage after only
a couple of months of dating, I assume their decision is long on
fantasy and short on reality. It tells me that the hard work
of marriage is being seriously underestimated. In fact, research shows that
couples who dated for two years or more scored consistently higher on
marital satisfaction than couples who dated for shorter periods of time.


2. People often choose a mate to please someone else - a father, mother, or
the person who is asking them to get married - but it is absolutely
critical that they be pleased personally. Your decision must be made in
light of your own needs and dreams - those that God is revealing to you
and guiding you toward. You should also listen carefully to the input of
friends and family members, but don't let anyone select your marriage
partner for you.


3. Unrealistic expectations for marriage may be the principal
reason for most early divorces. Many men and women enter marriage
believing their spouse will meet all their needs and that their romantic
feelings will never end. The truth is, successful marriages
require an incredible amount of work, patience, and endurance. I've watched
many marriages crumble because the couples expected life to be filled with
ivy-covered cottages, walks on the beach, steamy love scenes, and nonstop
fun. That just isn't reality.


4. Personality or behavioral problems will not vanish when you
get married. If there are qualities about your partner's personality
or behavior that you question - such as jealousy, a quick temper,
irresponsibility, dishonesty, or stubbornness - ask yourself if
you are willing to spend the rest of your life dealing with these
problems. Obviously, if the person you are considering has a drug
or drinking problem or trouble with sexual integrity, you should
make absolutely sure that he or she has worked through the problem
well in advance of your marriage.


5. You need to have plenty of "life experience" with your
boyfriend/girlfriend. Selecting a marriage partner involves a
prediction about how well the two of you will get along through
the years. Couples must walk together through the variety of
circumstances and situations necessary to really know someone.
Spend time with your partner early in the morning and late at night; in
heavy traffic and on country roads; in times of stress and ease. In most
cases
their true colors shine through.


6. Your mental image of the person you would like to marry has a
big influence on your eventual choice. This image is often largely
unconscious to you, but it influences you greatly nonetheless. Therefore,
it's vital to mentally clarify the type of person you want to marry. Think
long and hard about all kinds of factors - appearance, intelligence,
education, spirituality, and so on. Your unconscious thoughts can haunt a
relationship. Be true to your visions because you will forever lust after
other people.


7. It's crucial to find a person to marry who is a lot like you.
For couples, similarities are like money in the bank, and differences
are like debts they owe. If you want to make a marriage work with
someone who is very different from you, you'll need a large number of
similarities as permanent equity in your account. If you don't,
your relationship could be bankrupt at a frighteningly early
stage.


8. If the person you marry is much less or much more ambitious
than you, it's likely you will both be frustrated. Are you eager to
climb the corporate ladder while your partner is content to put in time
at work, collect a paycheck, and enjoy his free time? Are you
satisfied with your current situation while your mate is constantly
charging ahead in pursuit of some goal? The world needs people who are
super-ambitious, just as it needs contented, laid-back types. The
problem arises when a man and a woman on opposite ends of the
spectrum get together. This difference may be appealing during
courtship, but it will cause ample frustration through the years.


9. The ability of two people to communicate with each other is
vital to their marital success. A marriage is only as healthy as the
level of communication that transpires within it. It's impossible to
imagine a great marriage without two people who have worked
hard at mastering the art of talking and listening.


10. Couples need to know that they are capable of resolving
conflicts before they get married. If a couple doesn't know how to deal
effectively with their disagreements, their marriage may be
systematically destroyed. In my opinion, more marriages fail
because couples don't know how to handle their differences than any
other reason. That's why it's so vital that you and your mate assess
your conflict-resolution skills prior to marriage.


11. Couples must be rooted in shared religious and spiritual
beliefs. When two people are spiritually sensitive and their lives are
centered on common beliefs, they have a solid foundation on which to build
a
relationship. Couples who develop a spiritual base for their
lives together become intimately joined and merged. By affirming each
other's most sacred and deeply held convictions, the man and woman
establish the most important connecting point of all.


12. Passionate love usually fades substantially within six to
eight months. Passion exists between two people to keep them focused
on each other long enough to decide if they belong together for a
lifetime. It's normal and natural for these intense feelings of attraction
to wane. That's when compassionate love becomes so important.
Compassionate love is characterized by a strong bond based on
tender attachment, enjoyment of each other's company, mutual support, and
close friendship. Far deeper and more slowly developed than the fiery,
hot-blooded emotions that characterize early romance, this kind
of love is precisely what long-term relationships are made of. But because
this takes time to cultivate, some couples get impatient and give up on
their relationship.


13. Trust and trustworthiness are essential for a good marriage.
Trust is what enables couples to flourish in the good times and
hold together in the bad times. When tough times come along, the
couples don't panic. They cling to the fact that their marriage has been
wonderful before and will be again.


14. If you want to understand your partner's psychological
makeup, explore his/her family relationships. All of us are enormously
influenced by our parents, and we carry into marriage many of the patterns
and methods of relating that we learned in our own families. I
realize that no parent-child relationship is perfect, but in most cases
you can gain greatly needed insight by examining how your mate
relates to his mom and dad. Does he/she talk through problems or sweep
conflicts under the rug? Does he/she communicate in a straightforward
manner or in a manipulative, coercive fashion?


15. People who love each other have shared dreams and plans for
reaching them. The best marriages involve two people who have a
well-formed vision of the life they are pursuing together. I've
noticed that these people thoroughly enjoy dreaming together and
planning a way to make their dreams come true. At the center of
all this dreaming and planning is a recurring theme: "I want the
future to be good for you. If it isn't good for you, it can't be good
for us." Marriage provides the conditions in which we can experience
tremendous happiness and satisfaction - or grief and
frustration. By carefully considering the above points, you'll take a big
step toward a fulfilling future.


Dr. Neil Clark Warren is a psychologist in Pasadena, Calif., and
a popular speaker. He is the author of Finding the Love of Your
Life and Finding Contentment: When Momentary Happiness Is Not
Enough. For more information on developing healthy dating relationships and
wise mate selection, call (800) 263-6133 to order Dr. Warren's "Finding
the Love of Your Life" kit, which includes audio cassettes,
self-evaluation tools, and workbooks to help you develop a life-long love.

 

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According to the Mareciless one, they did flash my URL in the ABC segment but I watched it again on video and didn't see it.  Maybe I'm blind.  Maybe I was blinded by my glaring forehead.   Eeeep.

Oh well.   More later...   

3-23-99 Tuesday Nite

Well the ABC segment aired and I have mixed feelings about it.   I thought it was interesting and humorous and as far as content, I liked it.  My two big complaints are:

1.   Why the heck wasn't my URL mentioned?   NO ONE would be able to find my website after watching that segment.  Sure they mentioned my name, Lorraine and BaddGrrl but not once was it spelled out.   Anyone looking for "Bad Girl" or BadGirl.com is going to get a big fat, nudie porno surprise.   

2.   What was up with those closeups on my face?!?!?!   Could my face look any wider?   You could land a 747 on my face.   Christ.   Why don't you just taxi down the runway of my forehead.   Damn.

Ok, well chalk up another 2.5 minutes of fame.

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And the media blitz continues...

I've heard that the lastest issue of Rolling Stone is out, at least some people have seen it.   And there's an article about webcams and me in there.   I believe there's a picture of me with the article but I haven't seen it yet.  Hopefully this issue will hit newsstands within the next couple of days.   The only reason I know it's out is that several people who read the article have visited my site and told me about it.   

I'll write more about the article after I've seen it.   I don't think they will post the article up on the website.   I checked already.  Guess I'll have to scan it and post it.

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I worked out again tonight.   It felt good but to be honest, after watching that segment, my self-esteem took a serious hit.   Really not what I needed right now.    Nothing like a few closeup camera shots to make you feel really unattractive.   

Ok, getting depressed.   I'm going to bed now.

3-23-99 Tuesday

Just spoke to Wayne Freedman, ABC News reporter extraordinaire, and he said, "You're on tonight."   Woohoo!   Could I BE more overexposed?   It's a BaddGrrl Media blitz.

I want to give major props to the very cool camera dude, Elvin McDonald.  He did a fabulous job with the lighting and camera.   I hope he remembered the "special filters" to make me look younger, thinner, etc.

 

  

Thanks Elvin!

And by the way, if all camera men are that cute, I'm thinkin I'm doin a LOT more news segments. Ya know what I'm sayin?

3-22-99 Monday

Man, I am soooo tired.   I didn't sleep well last night and I had to be somewhat alive and awake today.  A reporter from ABC-Channel 7 News, Wayne Freedman came to do a story on me and my webcam.  It took a lot longer than I thought it would and I was exhausted and starving by the time it was over.   Can't wait to see how the segment turned out.  It should air tomorrow, Tuesday March 23 on ABC-Channel 7 News at 6pm.

A huge THANK YOU, THANK YOU to Dave Lau for getting a ton of really great screen captures of the shoot for me.   Dave, you're the best!!

The images came out really clear but I had to reduce the image quality so they would download faster.  Click on any of the pics below to see the rest of the screen captures.   I doubt that it will be made into a RealVideo clip unless I videotape it and do it myself.

 

The Making of a News Segment

 

I had more to say but I'm so tired.   Going to bed now.  Maybe more tomorrow.